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Moving From Indecision to Resolution
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To marry or not to marry? That is your question. No subject has been subjected to as much mythologizing as “living together.” You have your own experience, and you’ve probably seen a lot of other people live together without marriage. But you still have a lot of questions.
What does cohabiting do for my prospects of having a happy marriage? Does it improve my chances of a happy married life? What kind of person tends to choose cohabitation rather than marriage? How do men and women differ in their assessment of the cohabiting experience? What patterns are we developing during our cohabiting years and how will those patterns affect our later married lives? If marriage is really “just a piece of paper,” how come I want it so badly and my partner is resisting getting one? If “taking her for a test drive” really is good preparation for marriage, why do I feel so uneasy and unsure about this relationship?
Perhaps you are the one who wants to get married, but your partner is dragging his feet. You want to know what you can do to move the situation toward some kind of resolution. Are you afraid to bring up the subject of marriage, for fear of losing the whole relationship? Are you waiting for a more favorable time to broach the subject? Do you feel your biological clock ticking?
Dr. Morse can help you because she understands your situation. She and her husband lived together for four years before marriage. Once they had kids, including special needs kids, they began to realize that their marriage needed to be stronger. Only then, did they realize that their “test drive” had not served them well. Dr. Morse read the social science literature on cohabitation while doing the research for her first book, Love and Economics. She recognized her own experience and the experience of people she knew. She could see the stories behind the statistics, the faces behind the raw facts of the social science data.
How Dr. Morse can help you:
- her booklet You Can Improve Your Marriage, even if your spouse doesn’t change a bit, is filled with 101 ways you can improve their relationship, even if you aren’t already married. Tips on taking care of yourself, standing on your own two feet, managing stress, facing reality and setting boundaries are as helpful to cohabiting couples as for married couples.
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her latest book, Smart Sex: Finding Life-Long Love in a Hook-up World shows why you are not wrong to want marriage. This book will help you make sense of some of the painful mistakes you may have made, and shows the path forward. Check out the chapter called, “Why Recreational Sex is No Fun.” (Or check out the CD of the same name.)
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free downloadable articles, available for reprinting in local non-profit organizations such as women’s groups or church bulletins. (Check out this one: Why Not Take Her for a Test Drive?)
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her e-newsletter is filled with commentary on issues important to you, including commentary on the latest research on cohabitation.
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her first book, Love and Economics has an entire section on the true meaning of love. Dr. Morse believes that we have been misled about love. We often think “I am in love” means “I like the way I feel when I am with this person.” In the chapter called, “What is Love?” Dr. Morse shows that love is a decision. You know that she is realistic, when she calls a chapter, “The Costs of Love!” But you also know you’ll find hope, when she spends a whole chapter telling you, “Why the Decision to Love is Reasonable.”
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her seminars, workshops and talks have inspired many women just like you. Come to a special retreat for women who have been living together too long.
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her latest book, Smart Sex: Finding Life-Long Love in a Hook-up World has an entire chapter called, “People with Problems and Problem People.” You have more than your share of Problem People in your life. Dr. Morse can help you find a spiritually uplifting way of dealing with them.
What are you waiting for? Find resolution. Find peace. Find courage. Come to one of her life-changing seminars.
THESE ARE ARTICLES BY DR J. THAT MAY BE OF PARTICULAR INTEREST TO YOU:
In the modern world of consumer choice divorced from any moral grounding, family policy can seem hopelessly divisive. Some argue that “alternative family forms” are simply private lifestyle choices, comparable to our choices of curtains, cuisine or music.
If it takes a village to raise a child, what does it take to raise a village?
This article, published in the latest issue of Legatus Magazine, discusses a study conducted by a branch of Planned Parenthood. The study shows that there are various surprising factors that contribute to the effectiveness of
"...The evidence is now clear that cohabitation is a deterrent rather than a catalyst for a life-long marriage..."
Statistics prove that contraceptive use is largely ineffective, yet the government uses more and more tax payer money to promote contraception through sex education programs.
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